I don't plan on giving them "the sex talk"..... the science part at least. I'm gonna leave that to the Nation's Education system and their videos to teach my kids all the biology of sex. (diseases, condoms, birth control, ect... too)
Do I want to talk about what a prostitute is or how gay men/women have sex or what a threesome is or what swingers are or what the books/movie "50 Shades of Grey" is or who "Debbie" is and what is she doing to "Dallas" or all the types and options of sexual positions?
Helllllllllll no.
I honestly feel that that crap is meant to be discussed at slumber parties and in locker rooms.
What I do plan on doing it being real. Straight to the point. No messing around.
Sex is a big deal. Never take it lightly.
Sex is for people who are grown, mature, and who have experienced serious relationships and different types of love.
Sex is VERY personal.
People who have sex early or with a lot of people are suffering in another part of their life. Its not normal and everyone is not doing it,. They are missing something that they are trying to find through sex. They are risking their lives, their partners lives, their reputatuions, their futures, and their self-worth.
Sex on TV and movies is extremely dramatic and exaggerated.
You have no business even considering sex until you are AT LEAST a legal adult. It is an adult issue and until you are literally an adult, it's not your problem. Preferably, at least in your 20's.
The less sexual partners you have/the longer you wait to have sex, the better you are.
The more confindent you are.
The more independent you are.
The more attractive you are.
The more respected you are.
The stronger you are.
The more loving you are.
The smarter you are
The more ready you are.
You may ask, "So... you're saying that if I have sex early... like at 12 or 13.... then that will mean I am not independent, not attractive, not respected, not strong, not loving, or not smart?"
EXACTLY.
That person. That one person who is lucky enough top be the first person you experience the act of sex with...... better be worth it.
You must really know love, feel love, have experienced love and all the baggage that comes with it.
If you haven't had your heart broken... you are not ready.
If you haven't been swept off your feet... you are not ready.
If you've never been completely giddy..... you are not ready.
If you've never experienced the feeling of your heart literally skiping a beat" you are not ready.
If you've never cried because of happiness or emoptional hurt..... you're not ready.
Don't be in a hurry. If you are in a hurry and you rush it just to "keep up" with
And the worst feeling......... is regret.
Oh.... and if you get pregnant/get someone pregnant before the age 25 without being married or engaged or contract a sexually transmitted disease EVER.... know that I (your mother) will be so disappointed in you. So mad at you. Will feel so disrespected by you. Know that this will hurt me to the core and shake my world.... and yours..... and change the way I look at you forever. Not necessarily in a hateful way....... but my opinion and view of you WILL change. I promise. My love for you? Never.
So wait. Please. Until your ready.
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