Sometimes I think, "we've only been married 5 years?!?!"
Then sometimes I think, "wow..... 5 years already!"
Whether it feels like 5 years or not, I can honestly say I've never been happier. I know for a fact that my life truly began that day I met Toby. I knew right away that this was the type of guy that I needed, wanted, and was destined to be with. I just never in a million years thought that he would pick me. I remember when I first met him I was immediately jealous of the girl that was gonna one day snag him. Whodathunk?
Toby moved to SC to be with me about 2 years after we started dating. We lived (in sin, yes I'm aware...moving on...) in a tiny apartment off Pelham Rd for about a year and a half, where we were the only people in the complex who spoke English. It was a cute little place, where we grew as a couple and learned to live with one another. We learned to be each other's best friend, since we didn't really have any friends right in the beginning. We knew no one and no one really knew us. It was a while before we made some really good friends, so for the time in between each other was all we had...... and we were perfectly content with that.
Our engagement was such a surprise to me! I totally didn't see it coming! Toby and I had went to dinner at Red Lobster with some of my friends from work and when we got home..... BAM!..... all of a sudden her was on one knee in the living room and holding a black box that came out of nowhere! I was so taken back that I ran into the other room! Toby still teases me about "running away" from him, but obviously I came back, said YES, put the ring on, and hugged him for what seemed like hours! I totally didn't cry, but instead laughed! I'm not surprised I didn't cry, I'm not a crier, but why did I bust out in laughter? Who knows! But I did, and it was contagious cause Toby started in too! We held each other, giggling and laughing in the living room with the apartment door still wide open, and then immediately called our parents who were awaiting out call!
The wedding planning was fun. I really don't remember it being as stressful as people make it out to be. I am a very laid back person, so I kinda just went with the flow. I remember that most stressful thing about planning the wedding was picking out flowers. They were asking me what specific flowers I wanted and what shades of colors I wanted and how I wanted them arranged and where I wanted them placed and sizes of bouquets and boutiners and corsage's and how much greenery I wanted and if I wanted any embellishments and so on and so on and so on. That was the most stressful cause I really didn't care, nor did I have all the answers to all the florist's questions. I felt like a rambling idiot, attempting to answer their questions, and finally just told them, "Just make it look pretty please. Here are the colors of the bridesmaids dresses and my dress. Do what you want. I trust you" and we left. Other than that, the wedding planning went smooth and all was good in the world!
The wedding day was wonderful! The weather was beautiful and I felt so loved by so many people! I remember my heart hurting so bad because my Dad wasn't there, but I knew he was there in spirit and saw the whole thing! Everyone who was important to Toby and I were there to celebrate with us and wish us the best! My favorite memories from the wedding were my new found Southern friends making the trip from SC to attend, Gene Wood almost getting stuck in Canada, Whitney taking care of all of us and making sure we always had a drink in our hands, Marcia helping fluff my dress seconds before I walked down the isle and crying with her cause we both missed dad, seeing Rosie sitting in the church pew and smiling at me with complete joy as I walked down the isle, blubbering like a baby and trying so hard to keep it together while I walked down the isle, sweat running down my legs as we took pictures outside after the wedding, staring at a zit on Toby's chin throughout the entire ceremony, seeing Melanie cry as I came down the isle, seeing Kim, Shannon, and Tara in the pews,Mark's tux shredding, smiling at Dr. Biery as I walked down the isle, seeing my sister drunk and thinking it was so funny, a friend of Toby's grabbing the mic from the DJ and singing "Amazing Grace", dancing with my new father-in-law and my uncle Matt, my sister and brother-in-laws speeches, the amazing slide show that Brent made us, Melanie telling me that the "dinner music" sounded like porn music, Dave Bingley's heartfelt (drunken) speech to me with tears in his eyes, and not wanting the party to end but knowing it eventually had to. Such a memorial, magical, love-filled night that I would go back to in a hot minute!
After the wedding we went to Ft. Lauderdale Fl for our honeymoom. Why we didn't go to a more tropical location, I don't know. I wish we had, cause now we are aching to go somewhere like that, but owell. We had a great time, drank great drinks, ate at some great restaurants, relaxed, shopped, and enjoyed being together.
When we returned home to our newly purchased home on Byswick Ct we took some of our wedding money and bought our 1st child, Gertrude "Gertie" Louise.
From then on, we were just newlyweds! Looking back, all I can do is smile at how much fun we had! Now, life seems cRaZy!! with Leo now part of our world and Cece soon to be, it's safe to say the newlywed stage is....well.....O-V-E-R.
I don't love Toby the same way I loved him when we got married 5 years ago. I love him so much more. More than I have ever loved anyone in my life. I look at him and think, "Wow, I'm lucky."
Marring Toby Rolfes was the best decision I ever made.
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